By being well surrounded and accompanied, it is possible to help a loved one to get through it. This article shows you how to be there to listen to them and help in a concrete way.
Key takeaways
- Depression is considered a mood disorder that can have serious consequences.
- It is important to create a caring environment and to listen without judgment.
- Providing practical, day-to-day support can go a long way in helping someone with depression.
- Psychotherapy and appropriate treatments can provide effective support.
- Being attentive and patient is essential to supporting a loved one through this ordeal.
Depression definition
Depression is considered a mood disorder that affects many people. It is characterized by mood disorders , depressive symptoms that last. They are accompanied by a loss of interest in everyday activities. In any case, this requires specific attention and treatment.
What is depression?
Depression can cause depressive symptoms such as sadness, discouragement, fatigue, sleep and appetite problems. These depressive symptoms can vary in intensity. They can be caused by stressful events, health problems or genetic factors.
Typically, an individual suffering from depression is in a state of intense stress and is probably experiencing a situation where he feels he has no choice but to experience it: he literally feels trapped in something and sees no possible way out.
In a slightly more integrative approach, depression is the signal of a shift in life: the individual has reached a tipping point where he will have to get rid of things he no longer wants in his life, and move towards the unknown. It is a very uncomfortable or even difficult moment that requires quality support in order to understand the individual and take him by the hand for a part of his journey in order to help him switch to what will bring him more joy and happiness in his life.
The different types of depression
There are several types of depression, ranging from mild to severe:
- Mild depression, with moderate depressive symptoms that do not interfere too much with life.
- Moderate depression, with stronger depressive symptoms that can make it difficult to function well.
- Severe depression, with very strong depressive symptoms that affect professional, social and personal life.
- Persistent depression (dysthymia), a form of depression that lasts a long time with less severe but consistent depressive symptoms .
Diagnosis of depression is important to know what type of depression one has. This helps to choose the best treatment.
"Depression is not just a passing mood, it is a complex illness that requires proper attention and treatment."
The 5 Stages of Depression
There are usually several phases that allow us to determine where we are in relation to depression. These phases show the evolution of depression, from the appearance of the first symptoms to recovery. Sometimes we talk about 4 phases, other times 7, here in this article we will talk about 5 phases:
- Trigger phase :
This phase is marked by the appearance of the first symptoms, often linked to a triggering event (such as prolonged stress, bereavement, a breakup, etc.). Symptoms can include unexplained fatigue, mood changes, loss of interest in certain activities, and difficulty concentrating. The signs are often subtle, which makes depression difficult to identify at this stage.
- Denial or resistance phase :
During this phase, the person often tries to deny or minimize their symptoms. They may convince themselves that everything is fine or that they can cope on their own. This phase is characterized by a refusal to acknowledge the depression, sometimes out of shame or fear of admitting a weakness, although being depressed is not a weakness. This denial can prolong the suffering and delay seeking help.
- Acute depression phase :
This is the stage when the symptoms of depression are most intense. The person may experience profound sadness, a sense of emptiness, a lack of energy, difficulty sleeping, weight loss or gain, and sometimes suicidal thoughts. Daily activities become extremely difficult, and the person may feel completely overwhelmed. This is often the stage when depression is diagnosed.
- Treatment and recovery phase :
With proper treatment, whether through therapy, medication, or a combination of both, symptoms begin to diminish. This phase can be lengthy and often requires regular medical or therapeutic monitoring. Improvement is usually gradual, and it is important to remain vigilant to prevent relapses.
- Remission or stabilization phase :
Once symptoms are under control, the person enters a phase of remission where they regain some balance and normal functioning. However, it is essential to continue to monitor for signs of relapse, as depression can return, especially if stressors persist or if treatment is stopped prematurely. The remission phase often requires continued vigilance.
These phases show that depression is a progressive process, and it is crucial to recognize the symptoms early enough to intervene as effectively as possible.
Understanding Depression
Depression is relatively complex with many depressive symptoms and risk factors . Understanding what your loved one is experiencing on a daily basis is crucial.
Depressive symptoms can include profound sadness, loss of interest in activities, sleep problems, and more. They can affect the lives of those close to you in significant ways.
Risk factors such as stressful events or health problems can be factors that can cause depression. Knowing these factors helps you better understand depression and better support your loved ones.
It is also crucial to know the diagnostic forms of depression , from mild to severe. This will allow you to better understand the situation in order to offer the appropriate support.
“Depression is not a weakness, it is an illness that requires compassion and real support.”
By understanding depression, you can better support your loved one. This will help them overcome this difficult ordeal.
Signs and symptoms of depression
Recognizing depressive symptoms is crucial for a quick and effective diagnosis of depression . These signs affect daily life, both physically and emotionally.
Physical Signs of Depression
People who are depressed may have physical symptoms such as:
- Chronic fatigue and lack of energy
- Sleep disorders (insomnia or hypersomnia)
- Changes in appetite and weight (weight loss or gain)
- Unexplained physical pain (headaches, muscle aches, etc.)
Emotional Signs of Depression
People who are depressed may experience:
- A sad, gloomy or irritable mood
- A feeling of guilt or unworthiness
- A loss of interest in usual activities
- Difficulty concentrating and making decisions
- Dark or suicidal thoughts
It is crucial not to ignore these depressive symptoms . Consulting a healthcare professional is essential for a diagnosis of depression and appropriate treatment.
Physical signs |
Emotional signs |
Chronic fatigue |
Sad mood |
Sleep disorders |
Feeling of guilt |
Changes in appetite |
Loss of interest |
Physical pain |
Difficulty concentrating |
“Depression is not a weakness, it is an illness that requires appropriate treatment.”
How to Talk to Someone About Depression
Talking about depression with a loved one is delicate but essential. It greatly helps you get through this period. Here are some tips for creating a space of trust and listening without judgment.
Create a favorable environment
Choose a time and place that is conducive to an open conversation. Make sure your friend or family member feels safe and understood. Avoid judgments and premature advice. Focus on active listening and empathy. And avoid talking about depression.
Listen without judging
When your loved one confides, show them your support. Listen without interrupting. Ask open-ended questions to better understand. Validate their emotions by rephrasing them. Show them that you are there and that they can confide in you if they need to.
Avoid comments that might seem to minimize his suffering. Remember, depression is a complex illness. It often requires depression treatment , such as psychotherapy or tailored medications.
Your role is to support your loved one with empathy. Don't feel responsible for healing your loved one.
“Attentive listening and empathy are the best tools to help someone going through depression.”
Providing practical support
If someone you know has depression , it can be hard for them to cope with everyday tasks. As a friend or family member, you can provide practical support. This can help them feel less alone. Here's how you can help:
- Offer to help him with daily tasks like shopping, cooking, or housework. This will help him relieve his pressure and save what little energy he has so he can focus on himself.
- Encourage him to maintain a healthy routine, such as regular meals and good sleep. Psychotherapy and treatments are important, but balanced lifestyle habits can also make a big difference.
- Invite him out for a walk, light activity, or just to chat. Isolation can worsen risk factors for depression, so companionship and social interaction are essential.
- Connecting with nature, walking barefoot, hugging a tree, looking at the starry sky are all activities that allow you to connect with something bigger and find a little inner calm.
By providing practical support and helping your loved one care for themselves, you play a crucial role in their recovery. Your caring presence can make all the difference.
“Sometimes the best way to help someone is to simply be there for them.”
Help with daily tasks
Daily tasks are usually tedious and take energy. This is where you can be of great help and prevent your loved one, who already does not have much energy, from losing even more. By being supportive in these tasks you allow your loved one to dedicate his energy to activities that help him find more meaning or energy.
Encourage healthy lifestyle habits
Providing good advice and helping your loved one to adopt healthy lifestyle habits will contribute to your loved one's rapid recovery, such as:
- Eat healthy : We are what we eat and food has an influence on our body. Generally, a depressed person secretes inflammatory factors that can be amplified by food. Food therefore has the potential to keep us in a depressed state, since inflammation also generates depressed states. It is therefore essential to favor a healthier diet, which does not mean depriving yourself, but perhaps doing less excess.
- Avoid alcohol : it has an effect on the body, particularly on the large intestine. The latter is the seat of the immune system, but also the place where most of the serotonin is produced (> 90%!). This hormone, also called the happiness hormone, is responsible for our mood. If our large intestine absorbs alcohol, it will no longer be able to secrete serotonin, and this is what generates the hangover state the days following big nights out.
- Exercise : Exercise doesn't necessarily mean going to the gym or running a marathon. A light jog or a walk in the forest, for example, can be very useful and help to secrete.
- Go into nature : Nature has the power to (re)connect us to something bigger. Walking barefoot in the grass has been scientifically proven to bring well-being, and to discharge negative energies. In the same way, hugging a tree allows you to discharge the ions and energies accumulated during the day. Try it yourself, and you will be amazed.
Depression treatment
Treatment for depression can be different for each person. It can include psychotherapy and medications that may sometimes include antidepressants . These methods aim to improve mental well-being. However, it is important to carefully weigh the pros and cons of each element before incorporating it into your life.
Psychotherapy for depression
Psychotherapy is very useful against depression. It helps to change negative thoughts and behaviors. In particular, it allows to identify the blocking points and elements, what the depressed individual no longer wants in his life and where he wants to go.
One of the main goals is to free yourself emotionally, as you can see in more detail in the article “ Emotional Liberation: Find Your Balance ”.
What is most important to us is to carefully choose who will accompany you during this transition period. It is important and essential to be accompanied by someone who is interested not only in what your loved one is going through, but also in him, his whole being, and who is ready to dedicate the time necessary to help him.
Antidepressant drugs
Antidepressant medications are still commonly used in the treatment of depression. They help balance the neurotransmitters in the brain. One should follow the doctor's advice for safe and effective treatment.
However, they do have significant health disadvantages, so it is important to weigh the pros and cons before making any decision.
Natural treatments
If your loved one is in a relatively early stage of depression, it may be interesting, in addition to psychotherapy or other holistic or integrative therapies, to take certain plants or natural treatments in order to boost the system to recover more quickly and to help in the transition phase, such as:
- Chiric Sanango : this plant works both physically and emotionally. It will act on the inflammatory framework, reducing it. On an emotional level, it will allow you to switch off your mind in the evening before going to bed, and to find a restful sleep that is essential to have the strength and energy to face this particular moment.
- The D-Pression kit , which combines the Chiric Sanango for what we saw previously, and the Caapi which will allow you to have a clear mind and move more directly towards change, with greater security.
Conclusion
Depression is a complex topic that requires a lot of attention and support. It is certainly important to feel supported by your loved ones in these moments, it is even more important to be supported by professionals who will take the time to help us identify what we no longer want in our lives and where we want to move.
FAQ
What are the signs of depression?
Signs of depression include a sad or irritable mood. There may also be a loss of interest in usual activities. Other signs include trouble sleeping and feeling very tired.
There may also be difficulty concentrating and feelings of guilt. Sometimes, dark thoughts or suicidal thoughts may appear.
How to help someone with depression?
To help a loved one with depression, create a caring environment. Listen without judgment. Offer practical support in daily life.
Also encourage him to consult a health professional for appropriate treatment.
What are the different types of depression?
There are several types of depression, from mild to severe. We can distinguish major depression, dysthymia, seasonal depression and postpartum depression.
What are the treatments for depression?
Treatments for depression include psychotherapy as well as medications. Sometimes a combination of both is the best option. You should follow the advice of a healthcare professional.
What are the risk factors for depression?
Risk factors for depression include stressful life events and physical health problems. Family history and past trauma may also play a role. Certain personality characteristics also increase risk.
How to diagnose depression?
A healthcare professional, such as a doctor (general practitioner, functional) or a psychiatrist, can diagnose depression. This is done after an interview and an assessment of symptoms. This helps determine the type and severity of depression in order to choose the most appropriate treatment. It is important that these diagnoses have been made after an interview of at least 1 to 2 hours in order to take into account the individual's entire environment.